The Story of the Bad Ugly Monster by May Peterson

Gender in Romance is a series of posts focusing on the various experiences and perspectives of some of the top voices in queer fiction. Read more from the series here.   I learned early that I was bad. This wasn’t taught to me directly, like the ABCs. Of course the adults around me wanted me to be good and to believe I could be good. It wasn’t that I wasn’t loved, or that I didn’t try to behave. It was more like the way I learned that an oven could burn your hand,…

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Other Than by J.R. Gray

Gender in Romance is a series of posts focusing on the various experiences and perspectives of some of the top voices in queer fiction.  Read more from this series here. I’ve always known I wasn’t Cis. It’s a feeling I’ve had since as early as I could remember. I was different, and different growing up in a fundamentalist Christian environment isn’t tolerated. Decades before I even had words for what I am, I realized I was at risk if I opened my mouth. If I spoke, or asked too many questions I…

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The Fear of Being Labeled Wrong by Anna Zabo

Gender in Romance is a series of posts focusing on the various experiences and perspectives of some of the top voices in queer fiction.  Read more from this series here.   Gender is such a strange thing. I’m non-binary, so I don’t fit into the man or the woman box neatly. I feel tied to both and excluded from both. Sometimes I feel utterly myself and whole, but sometimes I feel adrift and lost. I crushed on men and women growing up, but not just sexually. I can point out which people I…

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On Finding Myself (in Fiction) by Kris Ripper

Gender in Romance is a series of posts focusing on the various experiences and perspectives of some of the top voices in queer fiction.  Read more from this series here. When I was coming up in the world, there was no word for my gender. No descriptive terms. You were a boy, or a girl. You were becoming a woman, or a man. I tried really hard to be either. I always felt a little more like both, or neither. As a kid, it hardly mattered. I read a lot of books and…

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On Comparisons: Writing Trans Characters in Same-Gender Romance by Austin Chant

Gender in Romance is a series of posts focusing on the various experiences and perspectives of some of the top voices in queer fiction. Read more from the series here. Let me start with an understatement: when you’re trans, it’s hard not to compare yourself to cis people. I’m a queer man; I go through life every day as a dude who likes other dudes. I’m about as excited as a person can be for that Dream Daddy game. But I’ve never quite felt like a “real” queer man, whatever that…

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