The Fear of Being Labeled Wrong by Anna Zabo

Gender in Romance is a series of posts focusing on the various experiences and perspectives of some of the top voices in queer fiction.  Read more from this series here.   Gender is such a strange thing. I’m non-binary, so I don’t fit into the man or the woman box neatly. I feel tied to both and excluded from both. Sometimes I feel utterly myself and whole, but sometimes I feel adrift and lost. I crushed on men and women growing up, but not just sexually. I can point out which people I…

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Nonconforming Gender Expectations by Anna Zabo

I don’t like gender boxes. Maybe it’s because I’m non-binary and personally dislike having to act one way or another, but I don’t think so. I tend to see people as wholes, as totalities. Whatever gender they are, that shouldn’t affect how they act or dress or behave. It can, because we do live in a world where gender is coded by behavior and dress, but it shouldn’t. People are far more complex than anything binary. Pink is for boys and blue is for girls. Or is it the other…

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