“Real” life vs. “book” life by Daria Defore

Maintaining a balance between writing and socializing is one of those things that I find infinitely challenging. I’ve certainly been known to set aside a whole day for writing and then, because I have the whole day, after all, not start writing until night. Those of you who have done this know that those misspent hours are never productive. Most likely, you spent them experiencing varieties of guilt, browsing Twitter, and allowing yourself “just one episode” of That TV Show. Like many writers, I work a day job. But I…

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Writing Your Way Out by Heidi Cullinan

Writers are often encouraged to write what they know, and this generally elicits passionate response, sometimes in defense of the maxim, sometimes against. I’ve always come down in the middle, writing from my experience most definitely, but always with a twist, because being direct too often results in something slightly misshapen, or dough too hot to touch. I’ll parse myself across seven or eight characters, giving one this memory, the other that odd tic, the next that professor from college. I always say the character most like me is a…

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Nonconforming Gender Expectations by Anna Zabo

I don’t like gender boxes. Maybe it’s because I’m non-binary and personally dislike having to act one way or another, but I don’t think so. I tend to see people as wholes, as totalities. Whatever gender they are, that shouldn’t affect how they act or dress or behave. It can, because we do live in a world where gender is coded by behavior and dress, but it shouldn’t. People are far more complex than anything binary. Pink is for boys and blue is for girls. Or is it the other…

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Dialect in Dialogue by Jude Sierra

When I was writing my third novel, Idlewild, I spent a lot of time pondering (agonizing) over speech patterns in dialogue for my characters. This story takes place in downtown Detroit; in it we have Tyler, a young, genderqueer black man coming out of college and into adulthood who grew up in the city. We also have Asher, a sort-of middle aged (I am struggling to reconcile 33 as middle aged, if only so I can avoid being called so myself, ha!) Jewish man from the suburbs who has become…

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Catch the Follow Me Into Darkness Reboot Tour + Exclusive Posts and Giveaway!

If you loved last year’s Mardi Gras release, Follow Me Into Darkness, you’ll love it EVEN MORE this Mardi Gras with a fun reboot tour featuring all new posts and audio from Santino Hassell, J.R. Gray, Roan Parrish, J.C. Lillis, and Kris Ripper + a big giveaway, and a little something more from 2/26 – 3/5 only… Site Post Type When Just Love Reviews Exclusive Audio Excerpt from Touched, read by Roan Parrish + Giveaway 2/25 Booknista Exclusive Excerpt Teaser from If We Be Friends by J.C. Lillis + Giveaway…

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Men in Romance: What’s In a Name? by TJ Klune

  Men in Romance is a series of posts focusing on the various experiences and perspectives of men who write romance. Read more from this series here.   Back in the spring of 2011, I was bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, completely unaware of what being published actually meant. I had submitted my first book to a publisher—with the odd title of Bear, Otter, and the Kid—and it had been accepted. I was in a state of shock, unsure of how it had happened, a majority of me convinced that it was…

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Men in Romance: Mountaineers in Love by Jeff Mann

Men in Romance is a series of posts focusing on the various experiences and perspectives of men who write romance. Read more from this series here.   I’m both flattered and bemused by the opportunity to write a post for Men in Romance. When I try to imagine a typical romance writer, I envision the hysterically funny Matt Lucas on Little Britain portraying Dame Sally Markham, a character based on Dame Barbara Cartland.  Dame Sally—an obese elderly woman with a silvery hairdo, dressed in pearls and an elegant pink gown—sprawls…

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Men in Romance: Growing Through Romance by Santino Hassell

Men in Romance is a series of posts focusing on the various experiences and perspectives of men who write romance. Read more from this series here. When I was a kid, my father’s main concern was raising me to be someone he could be proud of. And to an old school Italian dude with a mean streak a borough wide… that meant teaching me how to be a “real man”. His first lesson to me wasn’t how to tie my shoes or ride my bike, it was how to fight…

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